First, I would like to clarify. I fully believe anyone who sexually assaults a child should be executed. I'm not exaggerating there. It ties back to anyone who commits rape should be executed. And since a child cannot give consent, that is rape. Any politician who has the guts to go forward with that will have my support. People may call that extreme, but I don't think so. I think capital punishment is more than reasonable for a crime like that.
Which brings us to the point of this topic. As I said in the last post, I don't believe sexual orientation is a decision. I have known many gay people who wished they could convert to hetrosexuality because of how difficult being gay made their life, and found it impossible. Personally, I never remember making the decision to be straight. That is also scientific consensus. You'll find very few unbiased studies that say otherwise, if any. So until something concrete comes out otherwise, I am going to have to stick with that solution.
But this brings up an issue. If we do not choose who we are attracted to, can I hold a non-active pedophile rehensible for his/her predisposition? By non-active, I mean someone who is attracted to children, but who hasn't actually acted on it. Because anyone who acts on that is abusing a child and (in my opinion) subject to the penalty I described above. Currently, even if someone never acts on it, I feel fully justified in thinking they are an awful person. Being attracted to children is so disgusting to me, that I couldn't imagine lifting a finger to help someone being attacked for that. I can't even say that I wouldn't be an attacker.
Is it really fair for me to so vehemently hate someone who never had a choice who they are attracted to. In this episode of This American Life, a 19 year old realizes he is a pedophile, and talks about how difficult it was for him to find help for it. Even psychiatrists were disgusted by him and refused to help, even though he fully realized his attractions were a problem and went out to seek help for it. He started a support group to help pedophiles get help and to ensure that they never harmed a child.
That group fully understands that their attraction is wrong and hates that about themselves. Can I hate them when they never had a choice? Would that be any different from hating someone for the color of their skin, or disabilities they were born with, of the family they were born into? Logically, I cannot support that. But just because I am able to break that down to myself like that, leaves me unconvinced I want to change my attitude. This leaves me like a ship without a rudder. I do not want to go against my ethics and hate someone for something they didn't have a choice in. But I don't know if emotionally I am ready to make that adjustment in this case.
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